Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Sexism? Bad...Equality? Just as bad...

Whenever we talk about sexism, more often than not, we only refer to male chauvinism wehn female is being treated as less capable. However, sexism can occur both way. When guys talk down the capabilities of women in certain areas, they are immediately labelled as sexists or MCPs. But, alas, when women, as often of it does happen, talk negative about men, those are no longer treated as sexist remarks. Unfair it seems, unfair it is, but "It's a fact." they will always say in a bid to defend themselves. Anyway, this is just a sidetrack of the main point of this entry.

Whichever side it happens, sexism is seldom good as it turns a blind eye to what the other sex can acheive. It simply disregards the strengths of the individual sexes.

Then again, there is this other group that always put equality of the sexes on the side of their mouths. If sexism is bad, then equality should be good, isn't it? Sorry, but I beg to differ.

Equality is just as bad, as it simply disregards the limitations or weaknesses of the individual sexes. There are bound to be differences between the two sexes. One sex is bound to be superior to the other in certain areas, though there are often overlaps. I am not saying that in certain field, one sex is always better than the other, but rather one of the sexes will definitely have a greater potential due to their genetic makeup. By thrusting themselves into a area when they have a natural limitation just to prove that they are equal, aren't they forsaking their potential in other areas. End of the day, they will wasting more of their efforts while acheiving less.

What is really important is that we recognize our own strengths and limitations in order to acheive our greater potential more effectively. The average people goes for equality. The smart ones will carve out an unfair advantage by exploiting their strengths and hiding their weaknesses.

Wednesday, July 04, 2007

批评批评

好久没在此留言了。我想有将近半年了吧。终于有些灵感,再次拿起笔。手上其实也没笔。如今用笔的机会越来越少。写作往往靠的是手指在键盘上舞动着。虽然多了些整齐,多了些方便,少了些错别字,却也少了那莫名舒畅的感觉,少了那独特的味道。


今天想批评一下批评。不知从何时起,听到,看到的批评越来越多。每天必定经历好几回,无论何时,无论何处,可说是无“所”不闻。批评其实并非坏事,反而应当加以鼓励。若无批评,又何以带动变化,构成进步。


批评必须先批后评,缺一不可。先批事物之因,后评牵涉性,改善之法等。少了评,所剩的只是噪音。可惜的是,依我所闻所见,出声的人往往批多评少。不只如此,那群“批声”都是千篇一律,缺乏建设性的评论。而且,一个人会重复得向不同人批了一遍又一遍。这不禁令我问了问:“他们的出发点是什么?”



他们是为了与周遭的人达到共鸣吗?希望跟大家能有相同的话题?想和大家有共同的“敌人”?还是想让人觉得自己并非“随听即从”一族?是为了让自己显得高人一等,表现得比他人聪明?

哈哈!也许我所写的部落也是为了显示我与他人不同吧。我也不晓得。你觉得呢?

Wednesday, May 09, 2007

Will Be Back Soon

Hi to the few who actually read this blog. Sorry that I was missing for such a long time. But not to worry, I will be back soon with more of my nonsense after 3rd June. Till then, have fun and continue to live.

Sunday, January 14, 2007

爱占有爱

爱不会变成恨,恨始于占有欲。

且问:

有谁能爱得毫无占有之欲?
有谁能辨爱与占有欲之别?

你要的是个爱人还是单单一个伴侣?

爱无怒,爱无恨,爱无伤,爱无妒,爱无痛。

爱,你做到了吗?

Monday, January 08, 2007

Lessons from Solitaire

When I was in Abu Dhabi, I played a lot of Solitaire on my laptop, because there were times where there was really nothing to do. I will always play the Las Vegas 3 cards format. My colleague commented that it is all about luck. No doubt to win, there must be luck involved as there will be situations where it is impossible to win. However, why is there a need to win everytime? Since the score are cumulative, during games where the cards are not as what we will like them to be, we should instead sought to minimise the losses by scoring as much points as possible, and wait patiently for a subsequent game that will allow us to make a killing.

This is true about life too. Things will seldom be perfectly suited to our liking. Instead of quitting just because things aren't as what we expected, we should make the best out of what is available, get as much as we can from it, and always prepare ourselves to go for the kill when things are right.

Saturday, December 30, 2006

一公升眼泪

最近在追看日剧《一公升眼泪》。虽然此剧在国外受到好评,但这里好像没多少人在看。已经很久没看到如此让我感动的连续剧了,上一次应该是《圣者的进行》吧。《一公升眼泪》却有过之而无不及,几乎每一集都让我泪眶满满。

感动不只因为同情,而是在一些方面得到莫种程度上的共鸣。当一个人发现自己跟正常人不一样时,必然会感到孤独,因为没有人会了解他所需要经历的。需要的不是他人的同情,而是希望他人能淡然面对他的不同。需要的不是亲人将他的不同避而不谈,刻意把他当成正常人,而是希望背后有人支持,陪着他面对问题。


看着看着,忽然想到了一个问题:如果主角长得不漂亮,我是否还会有同个程度的感动?在还没认清这个问题前,我想答案应该是不会。认清了这个问题之后,仿佛是又扯下了眼前的另一层纱布。

想看这个剧的话,可以上 youtube 看看。

http://www.youtube.com/profile_videos?user=emily75520&page=5

Thursday, November 30, 2006

不用框框看人

经常会读到或听到:男人都是怎样怎样,女人都是怎样怎样,这些人都是怎样怎样,那些人都是怎样怎样。往往还会加上“调查显示”或“数字显示”等等言词来作后台。

何必拿这些死的框框去套住一个活的人,企图了解他的性格,参透他的想法,预测他的行为?与其如此,倒不如把每一个人当作一个独特的人,好好地去了解他,和他沟通,和他相处。

也许会发现的确有很多人落入那些框框里,但至少我们能因此更了解那些框框,更避免了误会那些框框以外的人。